Our celebrity agony aunt, Vanessa Feltz, tackles your problems with her usual wit, wisdom and humour
MY PAL IS STUCK IN THE PAST
My friend hasn’t changed her look since the Seventies. Her eyeshadow, hairstyle, lipstick, boots and ponchos are all identical to the ones she wore when we were at school. For years she carried it off. Now though, we’re in our 60s and I notice people staring at her in the street. She looks like she stumbled out of a museum. Should I try to push her to move with the times?
Your friend’s clothes and make-up are entirely her own business. Bad-mannered folk gawping in the street are no reason to persuade her to ditch the look she loves. We are all entitled to present ourselves in whichever way brings us joy and makes us feel most like our ‘true’ selves. Your pal obviously felt in her prime in the Seventies and she’s decided to stick with a look she thinks works for her. Don’t interfere. She’s living her best life.
BOOB JOB
My husband offered me a boob job for my birthday. The problem is, I didn’t think there was anything wrong with my boobs. Obviously, they’re not as pneumatic as they were when we met 25 years ago, but they’re not bad, and I don’t fancy going under the knife. Suddenly, I feel self-conscious, worrying he doesn’t fancy me and is turned off by my breasts. Should I say ‘Yes’?
Absolutely not. No one should ever have an operation because someone else, even a loving husband, thinks they should. This is your body. You like it just the way it is and there’s no reason on earth to undergo the risk of surgery because you imagine your husband might prefer yo
