Our Antonella tells it how it is
Dad vs my older man
Q I’ve been going out with a guy 20 years older than me for over a year.
I’m very happy in our relationship – I love him.
The problem is my father doesn’t know and he’d never approve of our relationship.
For one thing, he’s two years younger than my boyfriend!
I don’t want to continue keeping secrets but I don’t want to lose my dad either.
A As you’ve learnt, keeping secrets is a bad idea, flower. If someone else tells your pa about your relationship before you are able to, he’ll be heartbroken.
I know it’s hard, but arrange to see your dad and just get it out there.
Tell him you’ve found someone you love and reassure him you’re very happy and age isn’t a factor.
He’ll be shocked but I bet when he sees how content you are, he’ll come round.
My wife needs help
Q Since having our baby, my wife has become extremely distant.
She’s a great mum but she barely says a word to me. I try to help out as much as possible but I work 12-hour shifts.
I cook most of our food and do bath and bedtime to spend time with my son.
I offer to take him to the spare room overnight so my wife can sleep but she says no.
I’m not sure how else to help.
A Sounds like you’re being as supportive as you possibly can, love. Maybe she needs a bit of extra professional help?
Try to get her to see her GP, or talk to her health visitor. Reassure your wife that asking for help doesn’t make her a failure.
You’re a fantastic husband and dad, pet. Lots of families go through this, and come out the other side.
My fella wants a free ride
Q I’ve been with my boyfriend for a year and now he wants to move in with me.
He seems to think he can live rent-free and not chip in for bills because I own my flat.
He gets paid more than I do but has more debt so I can see how him moving in would help, but it seems unfair.
How do I ask him ab
