Each month, world-renowned medium Sandrea Mosses connects a reader with a loved one in Spirit to discover what their life is like on the other side. Jillian Costa asked her to contact her son, Matthew, who died at the age of just 27
Hello, Mum
Thank you for holding a birthday party for me! The food was great, as always. You know I always loved your cooking. No one can cook as good as Momma’s food!
You were such a good cook. I have taken with me lots and lots of fond memories from Earth to my new home here, and one is of watching you cooking and preparing lots of food, and the wonderful smells that would fill our home.
The aromas were great. The smells would waft into my bedroom and I knew I was in for a good day, we all did. Lots of visitors, lots of fun and laughter, with lots of different foods all mixed in together.
It wasn’t about the food, though, was it? It was about people getting together and enjoying each other’s company.
I sit in the peace and the silence. I can drift back to those times. I can pinpoint a day and a time and I can relive the whole experience. It’s as if I’m physically back there. The cheeky little chap with my cheeky little smile, running around and playing and having fun.
I was lucky. I had a lovely upbringing — something you should be proud of, Mum. You were so modern in your parenting and outlook, yet you managed to incorporate old-fashioned values.
I knew love. I understood it. Why? Because it featured as part of our lives. As we grew, we were taught what love truly is, and for that I was extremely grateful. We understood respect, love, kindness and morals — what was right and what was wrong and why it was wrong.
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Woe betide us if we overstepped those boundaries. I used to swear you were psychic! You could see right through us and you knew if we’d done something we shouldn’t have done.
‘Tell me, what have you been up to?’ you’d say.
It was as if you could gaze into my soul, Mum.
Because of you, I came over here with very few hang-ups and had very little I needed to ‘pay back’ or work through. For that, I am extremely grateful.
When a soul has lost their pathway, they have to unpick the experience and deeds, and work through them so they understand the intricacies of that pathway and the impact this had on them.
Once they understand and have healed themselves, they can move on.
This may involve unpicking other experiences they have had or creating new ones.
But thanks to you, Mum, I had very little to undo and heal. I wasn’t perfect, I know, but without your guidance my life could have turned out very differently, like some of the other people we knew.
You were right, I did have a flash of what was about to unfold. It was as if I knew I was leaving. I felt so calm and at
