Get the MAGIC TOUCH!
Here’s how to open the door to a better life
We all know certain people who seem to have an effortless ability to attract success and popularity. Their secret? They have charisma — acompelling attractiveness or charm that can inspire devotion in others.
‘Charismatic people are attractive, likeable and respected,’ says Michelle Bowden, author of How to Persuade: The Skills You Need to Get What You Want. ‘They convey a contagious confidence for their point of view and can win people over with their magnetic personality and charm. When someone is charismatic, people want to be like them, and they also want to spend time with them.’
The good news is, even if you don’t think you’re naturally endowed with charisma, it can be harnessed and developed. We asked Michelle to explain how it’s done…
SPREAD THE WARMTH
Warmth is about your perceived care and acceptance of the other person. If you are a charismatic person, you put people at ease and you make them feel amazing! You make others feel important and as though they matter. This, of course, can be very alluring and addictive to the people around you. People want to spend time with someone who makes them feel worthy.
If you are keen to develop this capability, aim to do all the activities that build rapport easily — care about others and remember key facts about them.
CULTIVATE A PRESENCE
Imagine a swan gliding along the water — they seem calm, serene and controlled.
But under the water their legs are kicking and paddling furiously — you just don’t see all that commotion.
To ensure you seem smooth on the surface it’s important to limit stressful behaviour such as jerky movements, closed body language, and impulsive comments or actions.
RADIATE POWER
Power is all about your self-belief and how much you like and back yourself.
It’s about an inner confidence that radiates from you and implies success. You can demonstrate power by holding an upright, commanding posture, maintaining direct-connected eye contact, and by your superior ability to articulate your point through excellent structure and clever storytelling.
Boost your power and charisma by participating in the conversations around you. Try to inject a short story or an example into every conversation.
LEARN TO ‘SMIZE’
Smiling is a winning behaviour recognised internationally as a sign of positivity. Did you know that babies are born with the ability to smile? People who smile are seen by others as confident, positive and attractive.
You appear younger when you smile a lot because of the way smiling affects the muscles in your face. Smiling is even good for you because it releases endorphins and other chemicals that help you relax and feel good.
A study by the American Assoc
