PATSY KENSIT
It’s impossible not to know how much things have changed for us mid-lifers in recent years. Menopause is now firmly on the agenda, older women are being seen and heard for the first time and you’d be forgiven for thinking we’re all out partying and living like we’re 20, albeit in slightly more comfortable footwear, but that’s not true.
Back in the spring I had the privilege to attend the Menopause Mandate summit at the Houses of Parliament. Alongside Davina McCall, Mariella Frostrup and many other brilliant women, we stood up for change for our generation, and those coming behind us, because change is still very necessary.
As many as one in three of us struggles with anxiety and depression in mid-life. Anger can be a huge problem. And lots of us feel like we’ve lost our identities. Many are dealing with younger children and ageing parents, working full-time and the pressure to look young. In short, we’re knackered – is it any wonder that we can experience a bit of a ‘wobble’ in our 40s and beyond? So, what do we do to support ourselves and each other?
Let’s start with highlighting the need for consistent access to HRT. I’ve said it before, but I’m very privileged. I was able to access private help for my menopause. Millions of women can’t, and education for GPs is still patchy across the country. Women lose their careers, confidence and relationships because of the menopause, and this isn’t ok.
I’ve had reports of women going to doctors to ask for menopause tests being laughed at for being ‘too young’ (spoiler, 44 is not too young). Some of you have told me your GP has said it’s not necessary until ‘much later’ (not true if it’s impacting your life) and that HRT shouldn’t be used for a host of risks.
Not every woman wants to take HRT but any woman who does should be give honest, appropriate advice about doing so. If you’re not sure, follow Dr Louise Newson who is brilliant. ALWAYS ask for a second opinion and don’t be afraid to be difficult if you need to be.
Lots of the women I speak to worry about not being attractive
