Sorry i can’t come to your party, i’ve got boundaries

LET COUNSELLOR KEREN LIGHTEN YOUR LOAD

Counsellor Kate Medlin answers your personal, sexual and emotional problems

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PUSH YOUR BUTTONS?

Q‘I’m 61 and have just moved from London to Scotland to start a new life. The scenery is breathtaking but my social life… less so. I’ve always been “the nice one” – helpful, upbeat, unfailingly polite

For anyone devoted to a fitness regime, party season can feel like the least joyful time of year. But swerving nights out and anything stronger than a protein shake risks more than a buzzkill reputation – it can put a downer on your entire emotional wellbeing. Instead of Team Health or Team Hedonism, the best festive gift is unwrapping a middle ground between clean living and a little chaos