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Will my husband cheat with my mate?
Q For the past 20 years, we’ve spent Christmas with friends at a rented house. But my best friend’s partner has devastated her by walking out, so she’s coming on her own. I know my husband fancies her, because we joke about it, and I’m convinced she wants him, too. I’m deeply worried what might happen now she’s single.
SUSAN SAYS
A You’re worried that your friend and your husband might have sex. But I’m worried that you’re worried. Is there any evidence your husband will be unfaithful after decades of loyalty, or that your friend will cope with her ‘devastating’ break-up by ruining your marriage? Your insecurity, anxiety and jealousy are clearly painful, but don’t seem quite logical. Please look into getting support. Your GP can guide you to local counselling services.
How do we ensure a happy Christmas?
Q Last Christmas was miserable for my 12-year-old grandson. His mum died seven years ago and last year his dad remarried a woman we all adore, and so does my grandson. They spent the same amount on him as on her daughter (who’s six) but he cried all day, saying she’d been spoiled and he’d been let down. It was so out of character and it felt like it was an excuse. How can we avoid such trauma this year?
SUZIE SAYS
A However much he seems to be managing the loss of his mother, Christmas brings emotions flooding back. So he needs extra support and to be able to talk about his feelings. Also, what you see as equal value may not be viewed the same by your grandson. Spend
