SUZIE HAYMAN AND SUSAN QUILLIAM CAN HELP
Help! Our dry spell has lasted years
Q My husband and I have always worked hard, and loved it. But because we’re always busy, we haven’t had sex for years. Now we’ve cut our hours and we were looking forward to getting our sex lives back. But it’s just not happening. How can we reorganise our lives and get some amazing bedroom action?
SUSAN SAYS:
A Your problem isn’t around life organisation, but around sexual motivation. Of course you want sex with each other. But it’s been so long that you’re nervy, unsure whether you can make an erection and orgasm happen. So start slowly. Don’t aim for ‘amazing’ passion but for loving cuddles, then build on that. Once confidence returns, so will motivation and you’ll mysteriously find you have lots of time for sex!
Can I change our will?
Q I have two teens. When they were younger, I asked my best friend to be in our will as guardian if anything ever happened to us. They like her a lot but she moved to the other end of the country a few years ago and we don’t see her very often. Now my daughter says that if anything did happen, she’d rather live with my brother. Should we change our wills?
SUZIE SAYS
A God forbid you do both die before your children are old enough to take responsibility for themselves, but since they are now old enough to take such decisions, yes, absolutely. Contact your friend. Tell her you all love her and are grateful she’s always been there for you, but since they see your brother more often it makes sense. Wills are a good way to put in such protection for small children but you do need to recognise that things can change and they may need to be updated.
Should we worry about her online relationship?
Q My 18-year-old granddaughter recently revealed she’s been having an online friendship with a 21-year-old man. Her mother – my daughter – is convinced he must be a predator and insists they stop communicating. The girl says she’s never revealed where she lives or any details. They have met but in public, with an exit plan, and his mum sometimes drives hi
