SUZIE HAYMAN AND SUSAN QUILLIAM CAN HELP
Should I date my workmate?
Q A colleague and I like each other enormously and get on so well that our workmates say we’re the ‘perfect couple’. But I’m sure that if we actually started dating it would change things for the worse. So I make sure not to flirt or to get too friendly outside work. But am I being silly? Should I bite the bullet and try pushing things to their natural conclusion?
SUSAN SAYS
A I don’t think you’re being silly. It’s easy for others to think that if you and your colleague get on well professionally, then that will translate into a great personal relationship. But if it doesn’t, you’ve not only ruined your friendship, you’ve also probably made it impossible to work together. So unless you’re fully prepared to risk those things, trust your gut instinct, follow plan A, and keep things at arm’s length.
Can I donate my hair?
Q A good friend has always complimented me on my long hair and says she wishes her own was like it. She is now undergoing cancer treatment and is losing hers. I was thinking of going short anyway, so I wondered about getting my hair made into a wig for her. Is that possible?
SUZIE SAYS
A That’s such a kind thought and she’d be touched to know you had it, but it’s not really practical. It usually takes more than one head of hair to make a wig, the hair needs to be quite long to work with and the process takes time and is expensive. And some people needing wigs prefer man-made to real. Cancer Research UK can tell you all you need to know about donating hair. But do tell your friend that her situation has made you realise the need and that you are going to donate. Take her along when you have it cut!
I know she’s shoplifting
Q A member of my family is shoplifting regularly and taking an elderly relative along as cover. The older woman is terrified she’ll get in trouble as well if this woman is caught but doesn’t know what to say or how to stop her.
Should I call the police or the supermarket she targets, or keep my nose out of it?
SUZIE SAYS
A Silence is collusion, and your elderly relative needs prote
