Mum-of-two Anita Naik has been an agony aunt for 32 years
ANITA NAIK
He never says thank you
Q I feel very taken for granted. My husband of 28 years rarely says thank you for anything, even though I do everything for him. It causes endless arguments between us, especially when he does something selfish like turn the TV over when I’m watching something. He treats me like his mum or his maid and says I’m always angry. What can I do?
A lack of appreciation leads to resentment, and this is when minor issues become a way to release your pent-up anger. Talk to your partner and tell him how he makes you feel. He likely has no idea that you’re so unhappy with his behaviour, so give him a chance to make you feel appreciated by telling him what you need to hear.
HE’S HAD ONE-NIGHT STANDS
Q I met a man about a year ago, and we’re happy. The problem is he gets drunk when out and, several times, has had a one-night stand. The first time we were only a few weeks into seeing each other, but there have been three more since then. I always see that he’s sorry and forgive him, but what can I do to stop him?
A You need to determine what you’re willing to tolerate in a relationship and what’s a deal-breaker. The occasional one-night stand when he’s drunk may be acceptable to you now, but where will you draw the line? At the next one, or the one after? You
