ROUTE TO WELLTH
The Sheffield-born musician (real name Rebecca Lucy Taylor) talks body acceptance, living with PMDD and the sex toy she’d recommend to anyone else looking to prioritise their sexual pleasure
REDEFINE
At 32, I hadn’t hit society’s ‘successful woman’ milestones – buying a house, marriage, babies – and I felt... relief. Realising I could ask myself what I really want has made my career. I now choose which projects I commit to and define success on my own terms. I don’t feel the need to hide parts of me to meet others’ desires or goals.
EMBRACE
I’ve struggled with disordered eating, as have most of the women that I know. It was a depressing reality that in my old band [indie-folk duo Slow Club] the skinnier I was, the more opportunities we’d get. With Self Esteem, I have full creative control, and it’s been important to me to celebrate my body: it’s not plus size; it’s not small; it may go up or down a stone. It’s a healthy size 14 and, for some reason, that feels radical.
CARE
I spent the majority of my twenties hating myself and rejecting self-love. Now, at 35, I’ve had weekly therapy for several years. I’ve also done yoga, reiki, sound baths – anything to try to find peace and happiness within. I’m also a believer in manifesting – as long as what you’re trying to manifest can come true.
FALTER
The insecurity is still there, and it roars at times. Prepping for the Prioritise Pleasure video was hopefully my finale of disordered eating. I drank celery juice all week and, after filming, full-on shit myself in my living room. Stood in my bath afterwards, I was like, ‘What are you doing this for?’ Since then, it’s been important for me to treat my body with respect.
PACE
I recently took a muchneeded holiday – and spent most of the time feeling ill. I pushed myself too hard and experienced what burnout feels like: that sense of total fatigue and disconnection, and disinterest from the things you love. I’m now putting boundaries in place with my work, so that I have time to eat nourishing meals, watch telly, read books and do my washing. I’ve also committed to restarting the PT sessions th
