And that ultra-connected, best-ever sex you’re craving
It’s the classic TV sex scene: two very attractive people envelop each other in a passionate embrace before falling on to the bed. Their eyes lock. And then they’re having missionary sex so steamy, you forget the position often leaves a lot to be desired.
Because in a classic real-life sex scenario, missionary – despite being the go-to for romantic, hungover or just plain fast sex – is actually less than ideal for people with vaginas. The lack of clitoral stimulation means a lot of people never reach, or even get close to reaching, orgasm.
Enter a subtle but effective modification known as the coital alignment technique (CAT). If that sounds familiar, it’s probably because you heard about it back when we were all watching Netflix’s steamy series Sex/Life, in which very horny character Billie gushes about just-as-horny character Brad’s use of this method. In her own words, ‘When done right, it provides the ultimate connection, both physical and emotional. I felt closer to him than I had to anyone.’
The whole point of CAT is – as its name suggests – to align your genitals with your partner’s for maximum stimulation. And instead of fast or deep thrusting, it’s about slower, more vertical strokes that focus on clitoral access (or as a friend recently explained it, ‘You know how it’s easier to finish when you’re on top? CAT is like being on top... from the bottom.’)
Read on to learn how exactly to practise CAT and all the tips that will make it legit life-changing for you.
All the tricks and tweaks you need
Hold on tight The person penetrating on top should grip their partner’s shoulders to avoid backsliding into standard missionary. This makes that orgasm-inducing, clit-rubbing vertical movement easier.
Go oh-so-slow Slow and steady is the name of the game. To start, one partner presses their clitoris against the other’s pubic bone then starts grinding – like dry humping but without any pesky clothes in the way. Between one partner’s vertical rubbing and the other’s upward strokes, the sensations will slowly build.
Add some slickness As always, lube = the key to great sex. Apply plenty to both partners’ genitals to get that sweet, slippery sensation you both love. If you want to turn things up, grab some warming or tingling lube for even more powerful sensations.
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