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Help! He can’t find my G-spot
Q Reading my daughter’s magazine recently, I came across an article on G-spot orgasms, and remembered that when I was young I used to really enjoy touching myself there. I showed the article to my fiancé and he got very enthusiastic – but the next time we made love he simply put his finger into my vagina and wiggled it about. No fun at all. What can I tell him so he gets it right?
SUSAN SAYS
A What each woman’s G-spot needs is unique, so your fiancé’s probably doing what a previous lover liked – and now has to learn what you want. But telling him the right moves isn’t enough – you have to show him. Using your fingers on the palm of his hand, demonstrate the kind of movement, pace and rhythm you need, then let him practise and show him really enthusiastically when he ‘hits the spot’!
Why can’t I forget our fling?
Q For a while I’d been sleeping with an old school friend. I’m single and he was about to leave his marriage, but then his wife, who’d also had affairs, was diagnosed with cancer. He and I agreed we should end things between us and haven’t spoken since. But I keep remembering our wonderful relationship and having shameful thoughts about hoping we’ll meet again. I can’t tell anyone how I feel because they’d judge me.
SUSAN SAYS
A If you’d encouraged your lover to leave his wife, I’d be giving you a really hard time! Walking out on a spouse in that situation is cruel. But he didn’t leave and you didn’t encourage him to leave. Instead, you’re grieving the loss of what you genuinely believed would be a better life for both of you. Find a counsellor who doesn’t judge your grief, and who can support you now your lover has left.
Why am I not invited?
Q My daughter’s wedding day was one of the happiest of my life. Sadly, they broke up after 20 years and she’s marrying a lovely man this autumn. But she has told me they’re having an overseas wedding, just the two of them. She says they’ll have a party when they get back. I’ve tried to talk her round and now am wondering whether to book a holiday in the same place to surprise them. Surely we’d be welcome? My husband disagrees.
SUZIE SAYS
A Listen to your husband. Sometimes weddings are about family and you may have reason to feel hurt if left out. But even a first marriage of young people should be an event over which they have control and can manage as they see fit. A wedding of two adults is nobody’s business but their own and if you ‘surprise’ them, the next surprise may be when they cut you out
