SUZIE HAYMAN AND SUSAN QUILLIAM CAN HELP
Should I have sex with him?
Q My husband and I separated at Christmas and it’s unclear whether we will get back together. An old friend of mine has been very supportive, and recently he’s suggested that he and I sleep together as a way of allowing me to move on. I do like him, and he’s always fancied me, but I don’t feel about him the way I do about my husband. So should I be taking his advice?
SUSAN SAYS
A Please don’t do this. Even if you and your husband separate for good, it’ll take time for you to recover and be ready to love again. Plus, I strongly suspect your male friend is taking advantage, trying to pressure you into a relationship that he wants, but you don’t long-term. It’s tempting, but you need to say a firm no to his suggestion.
How should I style myself ‘down below’?
Q My closest female friend and I talk about everything, but I hadn’t realised she doesn’t shave her pubic hair. We talked about it and since then things have been a bit strained between us. She feels it’s best to be proud of our natural looks. I think it’s good to shave – more hygienic, prettier and more enjoyable when receiving oral sex. Which of us is right?
SUSAN SAYS
A You’re both right. Because what you’re arguing about is personal taste. Not shaving is more natural, and if you wash thoroughly is perfectly hygienic. Shaving does create more sensitivity and makes your genitals more accessible, though it can also leave you more open to infection. So have a heart-to-heart with your friend and explain you don’t want to fall out about this. Surely your friendship is far more important than your preferences.
Will they be able to make amends?
Q My dad and my brother had a terrible argument last Christmas and, since then, my brother neither wants to talk to him, or me. Our dad was in the wrong, but he’s 80 and is not going to live for much longer. How can I get them back together before it’s too late?
SUZIE SAYS
A Concentrate on your own estrangement. Do you love your brother? Miss him? Want to be in touch simply for your own peace of mind and
