Mum-of-two Anita Naik has been an agony aunt for 32 years
ANITA NAIK
She changed her will
Q My dad passed away during the COVID-19 pandemic. He always made it clear he wanted me to have our childhood home. After he died, it passed to my mum, who said she was keeping it for me. However, she has now died and I’ve found she changed her will and left the house to charity. The fact she lied is no surprise as we had a difficult relationship, but I feel I’ve let my dad down as his wishes have been disregarded.
A I understand why you feel so hurt and angry, but don’t let the loss of the house become something that tears you apart inside. You have no reason to feel guilty. Your father loved you and wanted you to live in the house but left it to your mum. This means his house became hers and he wouldn’t want you to be so distressed. You need to talk to someone about this to allow you to process all that’s happened to you. Call Cruse Bereavement Support on 0808 808 1677.
MY EX IS BEING SO HATEFUL
Q After being with someone for 10 years I ended things as I was no longer in love. I was careful to do it kindly and fairly and though I knew he’d be hurt I hadn’t realised how hateful he’d be. He’s told lies about me to my friends and sends me vile messages. I’m so upset but don’t know what to do.
A Rejection can make someone you felt you knew very well change entirely. In some cases, people not only become angry like your ex, but also react in ways you’d never hav
