Mum-of-two Anita Naik has been an agony aunt for 32 years
ANITA NAIK
Her critisism is wearing me out
Q I’m in my mid-60s and look after my two-year-old granddaughter during the week. I adore her, but it’s exhausting. What doesn’t help is my 35-year-old daughter. She’s always shouting at me and complaining. I know she’s not happy and struggles with being a mum – and I have suggested she talk to someone – but she has started attacking my own parenting. It’s insulting.
AWhile logically your daughter can’t think you’re that bad a parent if she’s leaving her daughter with you all day, it sounds like she’s not in a place to be rational and fair. As you can’t force her to seek help, you have to set boundaries. This means telling her she cannot treat you badly. If she won’t stop, you need to make some changes. You may be her mum, but you’re not her emotional punchbag.
I KEEP GOING BACK TO HIM FOR SEX
Q I have been in a relationship with a man since I was 32. We’re both now 41. He doesn’t want to marry or have kids, so I broke things off. But we’ve been through a lot together, so whenever I get down, I call him for comfort, then we end up having sex. How do I stop this?
AIt’s understandable that you would feel conflicted about ending things when a lot has happened between the two of you, but by using this man as your source of comfort, you’re living in limbo and giving him
