Health
Want a relationship that stands the test of time? Try this quiz to find and fix any weaknesses
If you’ve been married for decades or have a steady partner, you’ll know that keeping it going takes work. And while some couples thrive as the years pass, other relationships crumble.
‘Long-term love often feels hard,’ says relationship therapist Alison Tinsley*. ‘It can become overfamiliar and lacking in excitement when the “head over heels” feeling wears off.’
But for many people, positive feelings increase over time. In fact, over half of coupled Brits fancy their partner more after 10 years together**. Our quiz will help you understand your dynamic and strengthen your bond.
Take the test
Tick the answer that best applies to you.
What would make you happier about your relationship day-to-day?
■ A More fun. Life is now full of commitments
■ B Not so many rows over silly things
■ C More kisses and cuddles
■ D Deeper, more meaningful conversations
You’ve had a huge argument with your partner. What happens next?
■ A You dwell on it and bring up the row later
■ B Neither of you says sorry and you ignore each other for days
■ C You’re very upset and struggle to reconnect
■ D Nothing is resolved but you pretend everything is OK
You’re most attracted to your partner when…
■ A They make you roar with laughter
■ B You’re having a good time without bickering
■ C They compliment you and make you feel sexy
■ D You can openly share your thoughts and feelings
When you imagine growing old together, how do you feel?
■ A Excited about enjoying more years together
■B Doubtful that you’ll make it that far!
■C Worried that your sex life will dwindle
■D Unsure that you have the same life goals
How much time do you spend together compared with when you first met?
■A You see each other lots at home but rarely socialise together
■B Enough – although you always end up arguing
■C Plenty, but it’s no longer exciting
■D Not much. You feel lonelier now
The results
See how you scored, then check out our expert advice to find out what you should focus on to help keep your relationship on track.
Mostly A
PRIORITISE FUN You may be like ships that pass in the night, with shared interests a thing of the past. ‘There is often the assumption that your relationship will be OK without attending to it, but that can lead to its downfall,’ says Alison. When couples don’t enjoy good times together, it also leaves them vulnerable and open to attention from elsewhere, she adds.
WHAT TO DO Plan fun in the diary. ‘It could be
