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Two years ago, the singer and actor went through her worst ever break-up, after a 10-year relationship. Now, her thoug hts on sur viving the grief have set social media alight
IN THE DAY SAND weeks after my relationship broke down, I felt so sick I couldn’t eat. I was filled with feelings of anxiety and failure. Break-ups involving kids are different. Previously, I’d be like, ‘Screw them’, go on a night out and act irresponsibly, but this time I couldn’t. I had to sit with my grief, all while putting a brave face on for my children.
The worst part is, you have to see your ex all the time because, of course, the kids have to see their father. I feared I’d be in pain forever. In life, every emotional state you go through feels permanent while you’re in it. Thankfully, it never is, and in the two years it took me to process this grief, I developed a seven-step plan for getting over someone…
1. Block their number, if you can.
This is for the child-free and it’s important because you might be tempted to ring them when you’re feeling lonely. Blocking them ensures there’s no opportunity for a tipsy 3am call, which I promise only leads to more damage.
2. Block them on all social media.
This one we can all do, and it’s crucial for those partial to social-media sleuthing , like me. I’m really bad for incessantly checking up on exes, and their exes, and ever yone around them… so I often block their entire social circle.
3. Put on a full ‘look’ every day.
When you’re feeling so sad you don’t even want to shower, a shower is exactly what you need – it makes you feel like a different person. You don’t need to do full make-up, but just a dusting means when you catch yourself in the mirror you won’t think, ‘Oh my God, I understand why !’ Put on your nicest under wear too – no one has to see it but feeling it on your body will improve your mood tenfold.
4. Turn your su
