In fact, with a bit of know-how, it can get better with age
WORDS: FRANCESCA WOODSTOCK AND LIZ HOGGARD MAIN PHOTO (POSED BY MODELS): GETTY
It may come as a surprise to our children and grandchildren – who hate us talking about it – but when it comes to sex we don’t just stop as we get older. In fact, for many, sex becomes better with age.
However, it was revealed recently that ageist assumptions mean doctors are dismissing the sexual concerns of people in their 50s and 60s, with many fearing to seek advice in case they are judged to be ‘sex maniacs’.
No woman should feel ashamed about her sexual desires. In the past three decades, divorce rates among the over-60s have doubled, leaving many pursuing passion later in life. Studies show sex three times a week can make women look up to 10 years younger, due to the boost of hormones. But with no risk of pregnancy, older, heterosexual people take more risks with their sexual health, and there has been a 20% rise in sexually transmitted infections such as gonorrhoea and chlamydia in the over-65s.
An active sex life is good for blood pressure, muscle tone and the cardiovascular system, it improves physical and mental health, and increases life expectancy. Talking about sex is one way to end the taboo around sex and ageism. Woman’s Own speaks to a lady who debunks the myth that your sex life should retire when you do…
‘I’m more ambitious for pleasure’
Liz Hoggard, 60, lives in London Before lockdown, I was sent a phishing email by a man who said he had taken control of my computer and I needed to pay him a huge sum. I was terrified, until he said: ‘I have all your naked photos.’ Then I howled with laughter. There are no naked pictures. My generation don’t go in for such things.
It turned out my online supermarket account had been hacked, so it was a relief to know my prudishness had saved the day. But also slightly sad.
Single, in my late 50s and in the thick of internet dating, I assumed I was never going to be a sexual pioneer. I decided it was best to look for a kind person, and focus on books and conversation. Sexual chemistry wasn’t everything, I told myself. But fast-forward three years and things are a little different.
BODY HONESTY
My 61-year-old boyfriend and I may have met later in life, but dating when the two of you are older can be hot. I’ve found sex is better than in my 20s and 30s because I’m more honest about my body, but also more ambitious for pleasure.
Before we even got near the bedroom, we had an honest chat about how things might not go brilliantly the first time. ‘Or the second
