Mum-of-two Anita Naik has been an agony aunt for 31 years
ANITA NAIK
He wants us to try new sexual things
Q I’ve been married for 20 years, and my husband and I are in our 50s. We have sex a few times a month, and I’ve always felt it was good. Now my husband wants us to try more in our sex life, but hearing what he likes makes me feel as though he’s been pretending all these years.
A Your husband’s suggestions don’t mean everything was a lie before, but just that he’d like to try something new. Sex, like other aspects of a relationship, will evolve, so try not to see it as a criticism, but more that he trusts and loves you enough to want to try out new ideas. That said, having an honest discussion with him about your concerns and boundaries is important. After all, his fantasies may not be your fantasies, though there may be a middle ground that keeps you both happy.
SHE SPIES ON US AT WORK
Q I caught a woman at work going through my computer, and when I confronted her, she asked what I had to hide. Other women at work have told me she does this to everyone and often looks at people’s emails when they’re at lunch. What can we do?
A Spying and invading the privacy of other employees is a form of work bullying. You must take what’s happening to your manager or boss and ask them to
