special report
As surprising as it sounds, social isolation is as damaging to health as smoking 15 cigarettes a day – but there are steps we can take to feel more connected
Feeling lonely? You are not alone. Shocking statistics have revealed that one in four people around the world are now suffering from loneliness.
Loneliness and social isolation are widespread. And since US Surgeon General, Dr Vivek Murthy, claimed social isolation is as damaging as smoking 15 cigarettes a day – that is to say, shortening your life by up to 15 years – the World Health Organisation has declared loneliness a global health threat.
According to Dr Murthy’s research, isolation contributes to mental health issues such as depression and anxiety.
And chronic loneliness can increase the chance of heart attack or stroke by 30 per cent, dementia by 40 per cent and double the risk of Type 2 diabetes.
“In short, loneliness is killing us,” says Mimi Nicklin, an expert in connection and mutual human understanding. “It’s a huge public health challenge that’s been slowly creeping up for some years, but since the pandemic the numbers are huge.
“Our bodies are wired for connection and, when we are connected, our brains tell us we are safe. When we feel alone, it puts immense stress on the immune system and makes us more vulnerable to viruses and infections. We develop mental health problems and we get physically sick.”
The Samaritans say they respond to a call for help every 10 seconds, with loneliness the third most common reason people ring the helpline. And with an ageing population it is a growing epidemic. Age UK warns if the issue isn’t addressed, there will be two million over 50s in England suffering from loneliness by 2026. Not only will it negatively affect health, it will also impact the NHS and our already over-stretched public services.
“There are many reasons for being lonely, particularly in women over 50,” explains Mimi. “Bereavement, divorce, empty-nesting, retirement, reduced mobility, digital exclusion and low income can all be contributing factors.
“So it’s hugely important to foster meaningful connections and friendships.”
Here, expert Mimi shares her top tips to build bonds and make friends in your 50s, 60s and beyond.
Admit you’re lonely
“It’s crucial to recognise you are feeling lonely. A lot of people are embarrassed and experience so much shame about being on their own, they try to ignore it. Others have been isolated for so long, it’s become a
